Is it ok to be sad?
In general, people are very accustomed to chasing positive emotions and rejecting negative ones. We often treat sadness and fear as hurdles in our path towards happiness, decide that they’re useless, and in the grand scheme of things, a waste of time.
In doing so, we effectively ignore the things that make us sad, those things that are hard to talk about, so it’s better not to talk about them at all.
But by bottling up our feelings, it’s often hard to work through them, to move on. Sometimes, it may be easier to just let go, to acknowledge the sadness and let ourselves feel it, without all the resistance and guilt. This way, we can deal with our negative emotions in a healthy way, instead of simply packing them away for later.
Working through our sadness is a way to take time for ourselves, to give ourselves a small break from the haste of our daily lives. It can help calm our nervous system, to regulate ourselves.
It also gives us an opportunity to actually come up with ways to heal, to work through the issue. If you’re too busy ignoring the issue, how can u possibly fix it?
Lastly, by really feeling our emotions, we’re letting them go. Acknowledging sadness is so much more effective than resisting it.
Let’s summarize, here are three main reasons why it’s OKAY to feel sad
1. IT’S A TIME OUT
Giving yourself a little bit of time to simply sit and be sad can be incredibly relieving, especially if you’ve been overworking and overthinking in order to escape the pain. Just a small break for yourself is so important, as often it can feel credibly overwhelming and suffocating to keep it all inside.
2. YOU CAN WORK IT OUT
Once you’ve given yourself time to recognize those negative emotions, you can decide how to adequately deal with them. It’s much easier to deal with a problem once you acknowledge it exists. Now you can decide whether you want to speak to a friend or a therapist (💁♀️I’m always here for you), or maybe take up a new exciting hobby. The possibilities are endless.
3. SADNESS EASES
One last thing to remember is: everything passes. Anxiety, fear, stress is all temporary. However, as long as you’re still running, these feelings will persist. The sooner you stop resisting and accept them, the sooner you’ll be able to let them go.
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