How do you know that he is the one? How can you be sure that your relationship will actually last? How do you know that with this person you can live happily ever after?
Today, I will share the 5 most important signs that will help you know if your partner is the one. All 5 signs should be in a relationship. If one of them is missing, this is a red flag. And the most important of all signs will be sign #5. So, make sure to read this article or watch the video at the bottom of this page until the end.
Consider this article as a guide for your happily ever after, and not as a strict rule because every relationship is unique. If you have any questions regarding any sign, just let me know in the comments.
I will talk about addressing a partner as a “HE”, but this also works if your partner is a woman. It works for both: straight couples and for same-gender couples.
Sign #1: How Good You Feel Next to Your Partner.
When you are with your partner, you should feel comfortable being yourself. Can you share your feelings and your emotions with this person? Can you share your happy moments and your said moments? And vice versa, can your partner empathize with you?
If you share something, the other person should be asking follow-up questions. This simply means that he cares for you. If the person is ignoring the conversation or not answering your questions, then he is probably not the one.
Of course, he might be tired, or busy, but be honest with yourself. Does this happen often? If he ignores your questions once in a while, then ask your partner if there is something bothering him. Don’t get upset or pretend that nothing happened. Even the best relationship would die without open communication.
Does he truly care about what’s happening in your life? And, in turn – do you care about what is happening in your partner’s life? Is it mutual? If you don’t have it, then your relationship will probably end soon once the passion is gone.
Being comfortable next to your partner also means the ability to trust your partner. Can you truly trust that person? Please, do not lie to yourself. Be honest with yourself. Can you share your fears and your insecurities with your partner? Can you share your deepest dreams with your partner?
Close your eyes and imagine that 10, 15, or even 20 years passed by. Do you like waking up every morning/ and seeing your partner next to you? Are you happy to come home after work knowing that this person is at home? How do you feel when HE comes home from work? Are you happy to see him?
Sign #2 That Your Relationship Will Last a Lifetime is A Good Sex-Life
Are you really enjoying sex with your partner? My question is mostly addressed to women. Unfortunately, a lot of women lie to themselves. They might think that they love their partner, but they choose their man based on his income or social status, or they simply pick a husband who can solve their problems.
Sex life is very important in a relationship. Do you want to have sex with this person for the next 5-10-15 years, or for the rest of your life?
And now I have a similar question for men. If you like having sex with a woman but catch yourself being busy with your phone when she is talking to you, or if you think that she will be a great wife, but you don’t feel that she understands you, then maybe you are not the best for each other.
Do not settle for something that seems like a good option. Instead, settle for something that feels good from the inside. Again, be honest with yourself. Remember all 5 signs should be present in a relationship if you want it to last.
Sign #3 That Your Relationship Will Last a Lifetime is Common Interests
Are there any hobbies, any activities that both of you enjoy doing together? If not, do you want to create one? Some couples enjoy hiking together. Others like to read the same books and then discuss them. Some couples like to watch the same movies.
When I say hobbies or activities, I mean something that both of you can enjoy doing over and over again. You might watch a movie on your own from time to time, but if you are always in different rooms, doing different things then what do you think would happen in 20 years?
Think about your common interests as your future family traditions. These things will keep both of you excited for years. Something that you can pass on to your kids. Something that can create great memories for years to come.
If you have some type of hobby, try to introduce your partner to it. Tell him why you like it. What is so special about the things that you do. Ask your partner, what he likes and why. If you have nothing in common, maybe you can come up with something completely new for the both of you.
For example, during the covid time, when everything was closed, my husband and I started to walk around our neighborhood. We did it every day for an hour. It was a great time to chat, discuss our future plans, and just enjoy the walk together. We still do it. Not every day, but often enough. It became our thing. And our kids also like to join us.
Let’s move on to the next sign.
Sign #4 That Your Relationship Will Last a Lifetime is Common Future Plans
Are you on the same page when you are planning your next vacation? If one of you wants to spend a weekend at home and the other person wants to get away and this repeats over and over again, then maybe your social desires are different. It might seem trivial, but if we are talking about a lifetime of a happy relationship, then this small thing might create a lot of problems.
I personally experienced it with my ex-husband. He didn’t like the idea of exploring new places. And I, on the other hand, wanted to travel. I still do. I like to visit new places, learn about new cultures, and experience new cuisines. When I travel, I like to explore the city where I go. And I love water. I like snorkeling and scuba diving. It would be very hard for me to be with a person who likes to stay in an all-inclusive hotel and spend all day next to the pool.
One of the reasons that my marriage didn’t work was because we wanted to enjoy life differently. Be honest with yourself.
Even if you love your partner very much but deep inside you feel that you aren’t compatible, then trust your guts. If you and your partner desire different things then give each other a chance to find another person to be truly happy with.
Sign #5 That Your Relationship Will Last a Lifetime is Common Life Values
In my opinion, this is the most important aspect. If any of the previous signs are missing, there are a lot of things that you can do to fix them. But if your primary life values are different from your partner’s, there is almost nothing you can do to make your relationship last long.
So, what are the life values? These are things that are very important to you. Things like health, religion, relationship, family, money, social status, sports, kids, etc.
People have 5 to 7 primary values on which they base their decisions, their actions, and create their lives. If your primary values are different from your partner’s, then there is a big chance that your relationship will fail.
For example, if you think that material things are important, things like having a nice big house or an expensive car and your partner feels differently, this is a problem. If you believe in God and your partner does not, this is also a problem.
If you choose a healthy lifestyle and your partner likes to eat fast food – this is a problem. If you want to have kids, and your partner doesn’t – this is another problem.
Yes, with time, people might change their outlook on life, but primary values usually stay the same. Do not think that you can change your partner. Do not think that you will make him like healthy food or convince him to buy expensive stuff.
Statistically, it takes 3 to 7 years to change a person against his will. And you should be a master in the psychology of manipulation in order to do it. If you chose this path, be ready for constant arguments and conflicts.
Before choosing the hard way, think about this – do you want to be happy in your relationship or do you want to spend years trying to convince your partner to be someone that you want them to be.
Take a piece of paper and write down 10 things that, in your opinion, are very important to your partner. Then write down 10 things that are very important to you.
If you have at least 5 common things, then you can create a happy, healthy, loving, and caring relationship together that will last a lifetime.
That were the 5 signs that your relationship will last a lifetime. If this was helpful, give me a like and share it with your friends and family!